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Post by Dan McLaughlin on Nov 6, 2019 14:39:39 GMT -5
I had a drinking problem following my divorce from my ex of almost 20 years. We have 2 great kids who are young adults and very caring individuals, which has made it easier in some ways.
Anyway, my ex began an affair with the husband of her best friend. They lived down the street. She and he are still together, which is good I guess. When I asked her up front if there was someone else she said no. I eventually found out otherwise. My life was turned upside down and I began drinking to ease the pain. End result is a severely damaged liver. A transplant is in the cards down the road, which is scary, but not so much I guess. I have had fluid retention as a result of my liver being compromised regarding ridding my body of toxins. Good news is I finally have medical people who are great. My former PCP was useless and made my situation even worse by thinking she was an expert at everything. I am days away from a new and very professional PCP. I have a great GI specialist that is coordinating my care. I haven't had a drink since last December, nor do I crave one.
What happened is that I met the most wonderful woman in the world at my church, although we have known each other for 10 years at church. I am 15 years older than her but it matters not to either of us. We have found love after our own difficulties with relationships. We have been together since last Septemberish. I might be dead now if not for her. She stuck with me through surgery for non-invasive right kidney cancer and my most recent health issues. I am a lucky man.
So anyway, I am doing much better after the recent hospitalization and am moving forward with hope.
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Post by brucemacneill on Nov 6, 2019 14:48:27 GMT -5
I wish you well, Dan. Good luck and keep up the good behavior.
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Post by RickW on Nov 6, 2019 14:51:24 GMT -5
Wow, Dan, that’s a load of bad things to run through. Hope it continues to turn around, and that goodness stays in your life.
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Post by Cornflake on Nov 6, 2019 15:05:08 GMT -5
You're dealing with a lot and it sounds like you're dealing with it well. Good luck and prayers.
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Post by Marshall on Nov 6, 2019 15:19:24 GMT -5
You're dealing with a lot and it sounds like you're dealing with it well. Good luck and prayers. Amen
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Post by millring on Nov 6, 2019 15:25:51 GMT -5
I'm humbled by your grace in adversity.
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Post by lar on Nov 6, 2019 15:39:06 GMT -5
Sounds like you've got a new lease on life, Dan. Enjoy it! I'm very happy for you.
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Post by Russell Letson on Nov 6, 2019 15:41:21 GMT -5
Dan, there is life after (or even during) liver problems. My former playing partner nearly died from a combination of issues rooted in liver damage, but he got through the medical crisis, regained his guitar skills, and is gigging again--mildly ironically, at a lot of nursing homes. (He's in assisted living himself, partly because the docs want him monitored.) He chose his parents carefully (both are able-bodied in their nineties), so he's a pretty tough customer, and he also had the support of family and friends as well as good medical care. It sounds like you have some of the same resources.
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Post by Dub on Nov 6, 2019 16:01:44 GMT -5
Dan, I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. Your attitude now seems terrific. So happy you now have a loving woman in your corner. I’m sure you can do this.
And, as you know, our own Larry Jensen (Sekhmet’s amazing husband) just had a liver transplant this year and has been doing well. He’s making personal appearances again.
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Post by theevan on Nov 6, 2019 17:55:33 GMT -5
I'm humbled by your grace in adversity. Me too, Dan. Count me as one who has been prompted to pray for you in the past. Never knew why. Now I do. I'm also finding that second love very sweet. Wonder of wonders, we have actually learned something from our past mistakes. I also went to the whiskey after my losses, though the episodes were short-lived.
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Post by jdd2 on Nov 6, 2019 17:58:09 GMT -5
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Post by Dan McLaughlin on Nov 6, 2019 18:14:01 GMT -5
Thank you all for your prayers, caring and kind words. I am in a much better place now.
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Post by Village Idiot on Nov 6, 2019 18:29:12 GMT -5
Good for you, Dan. Not only are you moving forward, you're moving forward with a soul mate who has stuck by your side. It's good to hear your in a better place. Enjoy that place.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2019 18:54:55 GMT -5
Very cool, Dan. Good luck with the future.
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Post by epaul on Nov 6, 2019 19:09:43 GMT -5
Wow! You got run through the wringer!
But out of the dregs, two roses have taken root:
-You have found someone special to share your life with.
- Should you ever decide to write a book, you've got all you need for it just sitting there all lined up A to Z.
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Post by aquaduct on Nov 6, 2019 19:12:41 GMT -5
Good for you. God bless.
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Post by Cosmic Wonder on Nov 6, 2019 20:52:52 GMT -5
Oh man. That is a lot of “stuff” to go through. It sounds like you have a good shot at coming out whole, and healthy. You have my continued good thoughts for progress. Hang in there brother.
Mike
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Post by Don Clark on Nov 6, 2019 23:48:29 GMT -5
Thank you all for your prayers, caring and kind words. I am in a much better place now. That's great to hear. Now you can do what you're always telling us..... Have good ones.
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Post by coachdoc on Nov 7, 2019 6:40:30 GMT -5
Oof. Tough circumstances. Sounds if you behave you'll come out fine.
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Post by drlj on Nov 7, 2019 8:13:28 GMT -5
Best wishes for you.
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