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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2022 18:38:24 GMT -5
Bummer of a day. I had to pull one of my faculty from teaching due to very inappropriate comments he made while teaching. As with anything, there is more to any single issue that what one sees first. In this case, after some digging, there are components of PTSD and marital issues. Damn, I wish I could wave a wand and fix people.
At least with him off of the teaching platform we can regroup and see about addressing his mental issues. I suspect that will be easier said than done, because what he spoke with me about today didn't seem to be tied to any single event or series of events. He's seeing someone over at the hospital, but I'm not so sure that is having the desired outcomes.
With me, I could describe to my therapist some very specific instances from my deployments, and deal with those in turn. I'm much better for having spent a year with Mel at the VA digging through the garbage that was in my head. I think that's left me with an unrealistic expectation of how quickly therapy can help.
Anyway, I'll ask you all again to not try and gut out any mental issues. There are folks trained to help. Go talk with them. I think we're all somewhere on the Crazy Train, but when you are offered an upgrade from coach to business class, you need to ask for help.
We'll dig at this tomorrow and see what we can do...
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Post by aquaduct on Jan 10, 2022 19:16:38 GMT -5
Bummer of a day. I had to pull one of my faculty from teaching due to very inappropriate comments he made while teaching. As with anything, there is more to any single issue that what one sees first. In this case, after some digging, there are components of PTSD and marital issues. Damn, I wish I could wave a wand and fix people. At least with him off of the teaching platform we can regroup and see about addressing his mental issues. I suspect that will be easier said that done, because what he spoke with me about today didn't seem to be tied to any single event or series of events. He's seeing someone over at the hospital, but I'm not so sure that is having the desired outcomes. With me, I could describe to my therapist some very specific instances from my deployments, and deal with those in turn. I'm much better for having spent a year with Mel at the VA digging through the garbage that was in my head. I think that's left me with an unrealistic expectation of how quickly therapy can help. Anyway, I'll ask you all again to not try and gut out any mental issues. There are folks trained to help. Go talk with them. I think we're all somewhere on the Crazy Train, but when you are offered an upgrade from coach to business class, you need to ask for help. We'll dig at this tomorrow and see what we can do... I've been gutting out my mental issues for 60 years. But seriously, that's tough bud. |
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Post by aquaduct on Jan 10, 2022 19:19:30 GMT -5
My wife gets me one of those every couple of years. |
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Post by Marshall on Jan 11, 2022 12:43:50 GMT -5
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Post by coachdoc on Jan 11, 2022 14:18:37 GMT -5
I'm not sure I have even thought about this guy since the 1980s.
A good day to all.
And that’s where he belongs. |
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Post by aquaduct on Jan 11, 2022 14:32:33 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure there's an Ozzy tribute band somewhere that beat you to it. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2022 22:16:28 GMT -5
Bummer of a day. I had to pull one of my faculty from teaching due to very inappropriate comments he made while teaching. As with anything, there is more to any single issue that what one sees first. In this case, after some digging, there are components of PTSD and marital issues. Damn, I wish I could wave a wand and fix people. At least with him off of the teaching platform we can regroup and see about addressing his mental issues. I suspect that will be easier said than done, because what he spoke with me about today didn't seem to be tied to any single event or series of events. He's seeing someone over at the hospital, but I'm not so sure that is having the desired outcomes. With me, I could describe to my therapist some very specific instances from my deployments, and deal with those in turn. I'm much better for having spent a year with Mel at the VA digging through the garbage that was in my head. I think that's left me with an unrealistic expectation of how quickly therapy can help. Anyway, I'll ask you all again to not try and gut out any mental issues. There are folks trained to help. Go talk with them. I think we're all somewhere on the Crazy Train, but when you are offered an upgrade from coach to business class, you need to ask for help. We'll dig at this tomorrow and see what we can do... I'd like to take the advice, and I appreciate you offering it. What makes me hesitate is knowing that no therapist can be reasonably asked to turn back time and purge the traumatic event from history and from one's head. If it actually happened, it'll always be there. I think. Not sure I'd want it driven into the depths only to resurface at an awkward time. "Would you like a Coke?" "A Coke?? How can I enjoy a Coke knowing that...?" But perhaps they are trained do anticipate that objection (?) I agree. Traumatic events never do go away. I'm not sure I qualify mine as traumatic events as much as transformative events or periods. I also think that because I was always in charge of someone or something while deployed, like many of my peers, I just tamped down a load of stress in order to carry on. When one compacts anything, it's hard to properly dig it all out again. A for instance. In Iraq, I was in charge of running base defense for our base in Mosul. There were several thousand US on the base, several hundred third country national contractors, and over 100 Iraqis on it. The actual physical security on the base when we took over was hardly solid, and we worked hard at improving that. That took time, however, and I spent my nights quietly repeating a mantra of, "Man, I hope the insurgents don't breach the perimeter." That's not indicative of any single event, but an accumulation of stress that I couldn't outwardly show. The day SGT Rubalcava died in a mortar attack on our base, for instance, we were working through all of that when my lieutenant asked, "Sir, how can you be so calm?" Using my innate sarcasm, I answered while waving my hands around, "Well, Lieutenant Lopez, would it help if I panicked a little?" Somebody has to maintain calm amidst chaos. Inside I was probably a wreck. So it goes. I could pile on, but I think it would come across as a fishing trip for sympathy. That's not at all what I want to do. Among Desert Storm, Iraq, Afghanistan and other crap over the past 20 years, there was a LOT of loose change rattling around in my head. All that aside, I was not at all comfortable when I started therapy at the VA. I did not want to rip off the mental bandaids I had plastered, but I knew my status quo wasn't sustainable. I was afraid of what would come up. However, Mel was a Godsend and patient. It took a few sessions to figure out that anything I said in therapy stayed there. I had good results. I would not have been able to work out what I needed to alone. |
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Post by Marshall on Jan 14, 2022 1:15:46 GMT -5
Good on you Schlimm. Thanks for sharing. Thanks for everything.
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