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Post by Ann T on Aug 1, 2012 19:43:52 GMT -5
Well, I'm just sayin' that the previous BFs' behaviors were not innocent and they were not forthright about it.
If you and your spouse are open and OK with it, then who's to say otherwise? But, if one person is looking up and and contacting old flames, that's asking for trouble. Even if it just causes a misunderstanding, that unpleasant discovery plants a seed of doubt that can erode the trust and specialness of the relationship. That's why the vows say "forsaking all others".
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Post by Fingerplucked on Aug 1, 2012 20:18:45 GMT -5
I thought that was "for sacking" all others. Like if someone gave me a hard time, Jadene would push their face into the ground.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2012 20:48:01 GMT -5
I'm a forty-nine year old who has had a life and some loves. I am still friends and facebook friends with past partners. That's just grand. The same was true for my last girlfriend and that was just grand also. It will not work to have fear and possessiveness about one's partner. That leads to secrets and lies and the whole thing might turn to crap.
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Post by Doug on Aug 1, 2012 23:46:41 GMT -5
2 I'm in contact with are also friends of Chris, so that's ok. One is an ex wife and Chris seems ok with that but we don't communicate much. There are some others I might want to know about but just not worth the risk. The 3 above were friends not just girl friends. I think Chris met a few old girlfriends at my 30th reunion but I don't remember who so I think that's ok. So I wouldn't go looking for them but I also wouldn't dodge them if they came by on line.
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