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Post by jdd2 on Apr 17, 2014 7:32:07 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
My wife recently went on extended medical leave. However, one person from her workplace is still bugging her with unwanted emails.
IMO, he's a stalker/manipulator. I'd like to be able to tell her how tweak some (Windows) settings so that this jerk gets an auto-reply to the effect that she's on leave and will not be answering emails--an automated reply that would immediately be generated back to this one person. And especially so that she does not have to answer in person, so that she doesn't have to even think of or consider this dork.
This is not an "I'm on vacation" thing, a general block of all mail to a specific email address, I'd like her to be able to block just this one person.
I'd like that anytime this person emails her, that he would get an out-of-the-office reply, but that others who might be using that email address would not.
Is that possible?
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Post by aquaduct on Apr 17, 2014 7:37:01 GMT -5
I'm not real experienced with it but I think you can do things like that with Outlook. Set different rules for different folks or groups of folks. Check the settings or preferences for the email program.
If you're not using Outlook, I got nothing.
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Post by aquaduct on Apr 17, 2014 7:38:50 GMT -5
And you might be able to make his email reply, "Aww shit! My husband's reading this! Run! He's going to kill you!"
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Post by jdd2 on Apr 17, 2014 7:49:21 GMT -5
Believe me, I would really like to throttle this guy.
The wife's situation is colorectal cancer, and 90 days off has already been granted (extendable for another 90 days).
So she should be (and is) on medical leave, but this guy seems persistent.
How can I tell him (politely or not) to get the heck out of our lives?
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Post by Lonnie on Apr 17, 2014 7:57:01 GMT -5
Here's some instructional stuff for various email services: blocking email. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2014 9:01:01 GMT -5
How about just marking his emails as SPAM?
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Post by Marshall on Apr 17, 2014 9:42:46 GMT -5
What are you using for email service? Gmail? Or yahoo? Or is this her work email address? Or are you using your internet provider's system, like Comcast?
And what do you use to read email? Outlook ?(As Aqua says)? Personally I think Outlook is a pain to program. It's designed to be controlled by the IT guy in a company. Individual users are restricted and/or discouraged in how they set things up.
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Post by Hobson on Apr 17, 2014 10:09:01 GMT -5
Is this guy her boss? If not, consider contacting her HR department or her boss. Yes, I know it's her work and normally you wouldn't want to get involved. Unless she's unable to think clearly, ask her permission before you do anything like this.
She (and you) has a tough enough situation to deal with without having to put up with this jerk.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2014 10:09:29 GMT -5
Like Marty says. Mark as SPAM and it'll automatically go to a junk mail folder.
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Post by Dub on Apr 17, 2014 10:24:09 GMT -5
…The wife's situation is colorectal cancer, and 90 days off has already been granted (extendable for another 90 days). Oh, NO! JDD, I'm so sorry. I'm sure she's in the best medical hands and will get through this but you've got ME worried. |
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Post by Doug on Apr 17, 2014 11:54:29 GMT -5
Just email him and say. I know this guy named Doug.  |
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Post by Bassman on Apr 17, 2014 13:46:55 GMT -5
Why dont you just email him, tell him your wife is on medical leave, and to stop emailing her. If that doesn't report it to his boss and do as Marty says mark his email as spam.
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Post by Marshall on Apr 17, 2014 13:50:39 GMT -5
Oops. Sorry, JDD. I missed the most IMPORTANT part of your discussion. I hope you wife does very well.
(You could always respond to the guy's emails with photo out-takes from your wife's last proctological exam. . . . I'm just sayin')
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Post by jdd2 on Apr 18, 2014 9:17:56 GMT -5
Thanks for the ideas. I think one root of the thing is that my wife is just too nice, or, being the Japanese person that she is, the concern for preserving normalcy overrides what should be done (which is to tell the guy to take a hike, and then ignore him).
She uses outlook for email with her colleagues, and yes, this is a work email address. When the time seems right, I'll try to work in the comments on email rules/filters. I don't think she'd agree to outright blacklisting the guy, or marking him as spam, since she'll be back at work someday. The best case would be to have outlook generate a specific out-of-office reply for any email this particular person might send her.
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It appears to be early stage, but that's preliminary. Surgery will yield more tissue for further biopsy. According to a CT scan, common destinations for this are clear (liver and lungs). They're saying no lymph involvement, but I guess that is something that will be biopsied during or after surgery. This is not just polyps, a chunk of colon will be removed and there will be a colostomy. We both carry extra insurance, so if one's available, a private room will be covered. She's chosen a hospital, it's a good one but a little far, but that's her choice and not an issue. Hospitalizations are long here, e.g., for each of two births, she was in for a week; I had my hip wired up after a bike crash and was in for a month. So this could easily be a month or more. According to what the docs have said, after some furthers tests, surgery will be in the range of 15-21 May.
Both daughters will be home for a visit in about two weeks. I'm sure there'll be some tears then, hopefully not too many.
This is the first time anything like this has happened to us, so if anyone has ideas, suggestions, or whatever else, I'm listening.
On the positive side, she's only 56, in otherwise excellent health, and it's early stage. Google says she has an excellent chance of full recovery.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2014 9:29:43 GMT -5
My Mum has been through colon-rectal surgery this last year. The emotional impact was considerable. She was given an excellent chance of full recovery and that is exactly how things seem to be panning out. All the best to you and the family.
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Post by John B on Apr 18, 2014 10:06:07 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's health problems, jdd. Outlook rules will definitely solve her email problem.
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Post by aquaduct on Apr 18, 2014 10:19:47 GMT -5
This is the first time anything like this has happened to us, so if anyone has ideas, suggestions, or whatever else, I'm listening. I've got even less here than I did with the email thing. Sympathies, prayers, god speed and fight the good fight. My best to you and your family. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2014 10:49:20 GMT -5
On a practical level, every time you are told anything medical, be sure you have it put in writing for future reference. Questions may come to mind that you were unable to think of at first, so it's useful to have written down any information you might want to further query at a later stage. It is good to make sure that every medical professional involved in your wife's care knows exactly what others are doing and when. We found that was not always the case.
Hospital can be boring and depressing, so escapist books and audio-books and a radio are good to have around. Hospitals are also too warm so very light and airy pyjamas are good. Earplugs are a good idea too.
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Post by Marshall on Apr 18, 2014 11:27:53 GMT -5
Bowl obstructions (not cancer) have been popular lately in our family. Sue and her sister both had bowl surgery in the last couple of years where a (twisted) section of the colon is removed. The point is; modern surgical techniques are quite good at this these day. In both cases they're out of the hospital in less than a week. (You pass gas and they scoot you out the door). But that's our lovely US medical system. And back to pretty-close-to-normal in a couple of weeks.
Best to you.
(You ought to be able to have Outlook do what you want. . . , but I don't know how. One guy I know programmed his Outlook to send a response to his boss's emails @ 3:00 AM, just to fool the boss who would send out urgent bullshit messages at all hours of the day and night)
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Post by Village Idiot on Apr 18, 2014 21:55:09 GMT -5
jdd, aside from the emails, which shouldn't be something you need to deal with at this time, that's some hard news. The good news is that she's in a place where medicine is top-notch and things were caught early. Please keep us posted, as she will be in all of our thoughts.
As far as handling the emails, I dunno. My suggestions might not fly in the culure you're living in.
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