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Post by Marshall on Sept 12, 2018 10:48:53 GMT -5
That's generally how I operate. I'm not talking about telling. I'm talking about listening. If I don't think I need to know what you're saying, I don't pay a lot of detailed attention.
I'm just sayin' (or listenin')
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Post by millring on Sept 12, 2018 11:28:08 GMT -5
Could somebody tell me if there are any words in the opening post of this thread? I don't really need to know, but I wasn't paying attention before I scrolled to the reply box.
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Post by Russell Letson on Sept 12, 2018 11:32:58 GMT -5
Huh?
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Post by Chesapeake on Sept 12, 2018 11:33:08 GMT -5
Are you the person to whom I am listening?
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Post by millring on Sept 12, 2018 11:37:23 GMT -5
You put your hand in mine
And then you say hello
And I can hardly speak
My heart is beating so
And anyone can tell
You think you know me well
But you don't need to know me
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Post by Dub on Sept 12, 2018 11:56:17 GMT -5
That's generally how I operate. I'm not talking about telling. I'm talking about listening. If I don't think I need to know what you're saying, I don't pay a lot of detailed attention. I'm just sayin' (or listenin') I’m just 160° opposite. I try to listen to everything around me (including Marshall) but am reticent about most personal things. It’s as Yogi Berra is reputed to have quipped: “You can observe a lot just by watching.” The same hods true for listening. I don’t worry (or even think) about how others understand me; but I very much want to understand them. |
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Post by Cornflake on Sept 12, 2018 12:22:07 GMT -5
One reason I find parties and social gatherings tiring is that I really listen to people. That drains you after a while.
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Post by fauxmaha on Sept 12, 2018 12:35:46 GMT -5
That's generally how I operate. I'm not talking about telling. I'm talking about listening. If I don't think I need to know what you're saying, I don't pay a lot of detailed attention. I'm just sayin' (or listenin') I don't think I needed to know that. |
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Post by millring on Sept 12, 2018 12:38:24 GMT -5
If you hit home runs you need to know bases.
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Post by millring on Sept 12, 2018 12:39:41 GMT -5
If you want to buy alkalies you need to know bases.
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Post by millring on Sept 12, 2018 12:40:30 GMT -5
You bake bread on a knead the dough basis.
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Post by coachdoc on Sept 13, 2018 9:28:08 GMT -5
That's generally how I operate. I'm not talking about telling. I'm talking about listening. If I don't think I need to know what you're saying, I don't pay a lot of detailed attention. I'm just sayin' (or listenin') I’m just 160° opposite. I try to listen to everything around me (including Marshall) but am reticent about most personal things. It’s as Yogi Berra is reputed to have quipped: “You can observe a lot just by watching.” The same hods true for listening. I don’t worry (or even think) about how others understand me; but I very much want to understand them. That's why you are such a good person, Dub. |
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Post by Marshall on Sept 13, 2018 9:47:59 GMT -5
I guess I learn in layers. Concepts first. Later on drill down to details if and when I need to know them. There's too much information in the world to handle it all raw. I listen to big picture stuff. Get a grasp of that and where it fits into my world. Who's doing what to whom. But the details lots of times escape me. Maybe it's an ADHD thing.
When my wife tells me a story of something that happens to her, I have to lean back and take a deep breath, because she's not going to tell me she almost hit a deer driving home. She's going to start with she was at the barn and left late because she was talking to Steph, and she left late, and how she stopped for some gas and a coke to keep her awake, and pulled out on the road, but this guy was driving too close behind her so she turned down a side road, and she remembered she forgot to get wiper fluid for the car, and good thing she was driving slow, because a deer jumped out on the road in front of her.
I ask, "Did you hit it?" "What road were you on?" "Are you OK?"
She shays, "Oh, sure. I don't remember the road." then rambles on about something else.
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Post by sidheguitarmichael on Sept 13, 2018 10:35:06 GMT -5
You bake bread on a knead the dough basis. You buy up slums on a deed to row basis. (achoo! dis cold is killing me...) |
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Post by Chesapeake on Sept 13, 2018 10:44:46 GMT -5
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Post by RickW on Sept 13, 2018 11:07:34 GMT -5
I guess I learn in layers. Concepts first. Later on drill down to details if and when I need to know them. There's too much information in the world to handle it all raw. I listen to big picture stuff. Get a grasp of that and where it fits into my world. Who's doing what to whom. But the details lots of times escape me. Maybe it's an ADHD thing. When my wife tells me a story of something that happens to her, I have to lean back and take a deep breath, because she's not going to tell me she almost hit a deer driving home. She's going to start with she was at the barn and left late because she was talking to Steph, and she left late, and how she stopped for some gas and a coke to keep her awake, and pulled out on the road, but this guy was driving too close behind her so she turned down a side road, and she remembered she forgot to get wiper fluid for the car, and good thing she was driving slow, because a deer jumped out on the road in front of her. I ask, "Did you hit it?" "What road were you on?" "Are you OK?" She shays, "Oh, sure. I don't remember the road." then rambles on about something else. I know your pain. Of the four women in my family, middeldottir says almost nothing. The rest...... and then I get accused of not paying attention. Because, in the middle of a monologue, they tell me something I need to know, and at that point, mentally I’m slumped over and drooling. |
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Post by RickW on Sept 13, 2018 11:09:10 GMT -5
That's generally how I operate. I'm not talking about telling. I'm talking about listening. If I don't think I need to know what you're saying, I don't pay a lot of detailed attention. I'm just sayin' (or listenin') I’m just 160° opposite. I try to listen to everything around me (including Marshall) but am reticent about most personal things. It’s as Yogi Berra is reputed to have quipped: “You can observe a lot just by watching.” The same hods true for listening. I don’t worry (or even think) about how others understand me; but I very much want to understand them. People are by far the most interesting things around us. I love meeting new people. That was the worst part of Idiot Jam - there were so many of you, all so busy, with so little time, I was completely unable to pick your brains clean.  |
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Post by drlj on Sept 13, 2018 11:29:36 GMT -5
I don't listen to those who don't listen to me.
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Post by Marshall on Sept 13, 2018 11:53:05 GMT -5
I guess I learn in layers. Concepts first. Later on drill down to details if and when I need to know them. There's too much information in the world to handle it all raw. I listen to big picture stuff. Get a grasp of that and where it fits into my world. Who's doing what to whom. But the details lots of times escape me. Maybe it's an ADHD thing. When my wife tells me a story of something that happens to her, I have to lean back and take a deep breath, because she's not going to tell me she almost hit a deer driving home. She's going to start with she was at the barn and left late because she was talking to Steph, and she left late, and how she stopped for some gas and a coke to keep her awake, and pulled out on the road, but this guy was driving too close behind her so she turned down a side road, and she remembered she forgot to get wiper fluid for the car, and good thing she was driving slow, because a deer jumped out on the road in front of her. I ask, "Did you hit it?" "What road were you on?" "Are you OK?" She shays, "Oh, sure. I don't remember the road." then rambles on about something else. I know your pain. Of the four women in my family, middeldottir says almost nothing. The rest...... and then I get accused of not paying attention. Because, in the middle of a monologue, they tell me something I need to know, and at that point, mentally I’m slumped over and drooling. This all started when i said i almost hit a deer in Iowa last weekend. Then she said it just happened to her, and HAS TO start at the beginning and work her way up to it. She's a linear thinker. Me, I work in layers of understanding. Big picture to details. |
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Post by xyrn on Sept 13, 2018 12:29:18 GMT -5
I guess I learn in layers. Concepts first. Later on drill down to details if and when I need to know them. There's too much information in the world to handle it all raw. I listen to big picture stuff. Get a grasp of that and where it fits into my world. Who's doing what to whom. But the details lots of times escape me. Maybe it's an ADHD thing. When my wife tells me a story of something that happens to her, I have to lean back and take a deep breath, because she's not going to tell me she almost hit a deer driving home. She's going to start with she was at the barn and left late because she was talking to Steph, and she left late, and how she stopped for some gas and a coke to keep her awake, and pulled out on the road, but this guy was driving too close behind her so she turned down a side road, and she remembered she forgot to get wiper fluid for the car, and good thing she was driving slow, because a deer jumped out on the road in front of her. I ask, "Did you hit it?" "What road were you on?" "Are you OK?" She shays, "Oh, sure. I don't remember the road." then rambles on about something else. I'm that way when my Mom talks about anything. She's into genealogy and connections and networking and so if she's going to tell about almost hitting a deer I'll hear about how she was just leaving Judy's, you know, the Judy that married Bob from grad school, Bob that is an accountant. not Bob that is a pilot and lives in Orlando now because after he retired he decided he just didn't like the cold weather and did you know he knew Chuck Yeager from way back, anyway, Judy is going thru a rough time ever since her son that's at the U decided to change his major from medicine to dance, and bla bla bla bla bla. She's smart and caring but when she starts going it's just excruciating... |
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