Post by t-bob on Sept 26, 2023 22:26:29 GMT -5
Most of us spend much of our day answering questions. It wears us out.
We deeply believe that we’re supposed to answer the questions. It’s what we do, it’s who we are, and it’s the role we play. But what if that’s a flawed premise?
Believing that we should always have the answer is stressful. Sometimes it’s more than we can bear. We’re tired, nervous, distressed, and anxious. We’re not always sure we can cope. We survive, but sometimes it’s touch and go.
It’s challenging when we’re the people everyone else comes to for answers. The clients ask us what to do. The employees do as well. Sometimes our vendors want our guidance on how we want “it” (the copier, the Internet, the website, the business cards, whatever) handled. Then there’s our family asking us for input. The questions just keep on coming.
Deep down, we know they could answer the questions themselves. We know that our answer isn’t much, if any, better than their best guess. After all, our answer is merely our best guess. We don’t always “know,” but we always answer.
But the questions keep on coming, so we keep answering. We respond, “Go ahead and call her,” “It goes over there,” “Send the money he needs,” “Tell him you did it,” “Stop doing it,” “Start doing it,” and on and on. You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers.
It’s hard to answer one question before the next question flies at us. Sometimes we want to hide out in the closet.
We accept our role as the answerer. We buffer ourselves by regulating our e-mail, limiting our phone calls, and closing our door. But we know we’ve got to spend time each day answering the questions because our failure will cause progress to stop.
I wrote a little bit - The Friday File - a collaboration (11,000 legal minds)
The article have the guidance for clients, owners and a family...... and Patriarch
We deeply believe that we’re supposed to answer the questions. It’s what we do, it’s who we are, and it’s the role we play. But what if that’s a flawed premise?
Believing that we should always have the answer is stressful. Sometimes it’s more than we can bear. We’re tired, nervous, distressed, and anxious. We’re not always sure we can cope. We survive, but sometimes it’s touch and go.
It’s challenging when we’re the people everyone else comes to for answers. The clients ask us what to do. The employees do as well. Sometimes our vendors want our guidance on how we want “it” (the copier, the Internet, the website, the business cards, whatever) handled. Then there’s our family asking us for input. The questions just keep on coming.
Deep down, we know they could answer the questions themselves. We know that our answer isn’t much, if any, better than their best guess. After all, our answer is merely our best guess. We don’t always “know,” but we always answer.
But the questions keep on coming, so we keep answering. We respond, “Go ahead and call her,” “It goes over there,” “Send the money he needs,” “Tell him you did it,” “Stop doing it,” “Start doing it,” and on and on. You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers.
It’s hard to answer one question before the next question flies at us. Sometimes we want to hide out in the closet.
We accept our role as the answerer. We buffer ourselves by regulating our e-mail, limiting our phone calls, and closing our door. But we know we’ve got to spend time each day answering the questions because our failure will cause progress to stop.
I wrote a little bit - The Friday File - a collaboration (11,000 legal minds)
The article have the guidance for clients, owners and a family...... and Patriarch
