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Post by drlj on Jul 23, 2023 10:12:14 GMT -5
Jan, I am sorry about your DIL's experience and am glad that she is alright and wasn't hurt. I grew up in New York in the 1970s and 1980s, and one thing you learned early on was not to appear affluent on the street—or on the subway especially. Don't wear a too nice coat. Don't flash jewelry or cash. And the #1 rule was to be vigilant and aware of your surroundings and who occupied those spaces, all the time. This was before there were transit police (now they are crawling all over the subway system). I hope both son and DIL stay safe. If they want to relocate, they should consider Brooklyn—it is one of the most gentrified boroughs in the city these days, and a quick commute to Sloan Kettering and Rockefeller Medical Center for a cancer researcher. I'm just sayin'. Like the Barenaked Ladies song says, "if I had a million dollars" I'd move to Brooklyn in a heartbeat. Well, maybe two million. Or ten. I wouldn’t move to any big city if you paid me $2 million. I would consider it for $ 3 million—but still wouldn’t go. I am in the biggest city in which I have ever lived with 34,000 and if it gets over 34,500 I may have to flee it. Hoosiers long to live where the squirrels roam freely!
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Post by drlj on Jul 23, 2023 10:20:08 GMT -5
There is a group in Naperville offering therapy sessions with chickens. If that doesn’t show society is in trouble, nothing does. I will admit that a nice plate of fried chicken can be therapeutic and I may just feel a need for such therapy later today.
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Post by howard lee on Jul 23, 2023 10:22:16 GMT -5
Like the Barenaked Ladies song says, "if I had a million dollars" I'd move to Brooklyn in a heartbeat. Well, maybe two million. Or ten. I wouldn’t move to any big city if you paid me $2 million. I would consider it for $ 3 million—but still wouldn’t go. I am in the biggest city in which I have ever lived with 34,000 and if it gets over 34,500 I may have to flee it. Hoosiers long to live where the squirrels roam freely!
We have plenty of squirrels roaming freely here and no Hoosiers to poach 'em. Come by and bring your Wrist Rocket!
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Post by drlj on Jul 23, 2023 10:26:14 GMT -5
I wouldn’t move to any big city if you paid me $2 million. I would consider it for $ 3 million—but still wouldn’t go. I am in the biggest city in which I have ever lived with 34,000 and if it gets over 34,500 I may have to flee it. Hoosiers long to live where the squirrels roam freely! We have plenty of squirrels roaming freely here and no Hoosiers to poach 'em. Come by and bring your Wrist Rocket!
🪃 I prefer the Australian method of hunting.
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Post by concertinagirl on Jul 23, 2023 12:39:08 GMT -5
Jan, I am sorry about your DIL's experience and am glad that she is alright and wasn't hurt. I grew up in New York in the 1970s and 1980s, and one thing you learned early on was not to appear affluent on the street—or on the subway especially. Don't wear a too nice coat. Don't flash jewelry or cash. And the #1 rule was to be vigilant and aware of your surroundings and who occupied those spaces, all the time. This was before there were transit police (now they are crawling all over the subway system). I hope both son and DIL stay safe. If they want to relocate, they should consider Brooklyn—it is one of the most gentrified boroughs in the city these days, and a quick commute to Sloan Kettering and Rockefeller Medical Center for a cancer researcher. I'm just sayin'. Thank you, Howard. I think my DIL would LOVE Brooklyn. My son however moved to Brooklyn a few years ago and only lasted nine months. He did some freelance work for “Glamour Latina” and when his work was complete he got out. He had sold his car when he moved and thought he would enjoy using the public system. He said he grew weary of that very quickly. Soon after he moved to Chicago he told me he didn’t like it there either and that he is always worried (as am I) when she goes running alone. She does marathons and does long training runs. The only reason he is in Chicago is to please his wife. I do admire and respect him for that but I also hope that after what she has experienced, that maybe they can come to some sort of compromise. My DIL took a month LOA and is still up in Michigan with her mother. My secret hope is that her mother will convince her to move up there. Matt told me he loves the area where her mother lives.
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Post by millring on Jul 23, 2023 13:16:30 GMT -5
"The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of it, is geared toward making us connect with things not people. You are not a good consumer citizen if you spend your time bonding with the people around you and not stuff. In fact, we are trained from a young age to focus our hopes, dreams, and ambitions on things to buy and consume. Drug addiction is a subset of that." This really grabs me. One huge factor that I believe social connection brings to the mental health and well-being table is shame. Social media offers an ersatz social connection that can be tailored to not include shame And we've even taken to socially shaming shame. But I'm thinking that maybe we shouldn't be.
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Post by howard lee on Jul 24, 2023 6:00:03 GMT -5
Jan, I am sorry about your DIL's experience and am glad that she is alright and wasn't hurt. I grew up in New York in the 1970s and 1980s, and one thing you learned early on was not to appear affluent on the street—or on the subway especially. Don't wear a too nice coat. Don't flash jewelry or cash. And the #1 rule was to be vigilant and aware of your surroundings and who occupied those spaces, all the time. This was before there were transit police (now they are crawling all over the subway system). I hope both son and DIL stay safe. If they want to relocate, they should consider Brooklyn—it is one of the most gentrified boroughs in the city these days, and a quick commute to Sloan Kettering and Rockefeller Medical Center for a cancer researcher. I'm just sayin'. Thank you, Howard. I think my DIL would LOVE Brooklyn. My son however moved to Brooklyn a few years ago and only lasted nine months. He did some freelance work for “Glamour Latina” and when his work was complete he got out. He had sold his car when he moved and thought he would enjoy using the public system. He said he grew weary of that very quickly. Soon after he moved to Chicago he told me he didn’t like it there either and that he is always worried (as am I) when she goes running alone. She does marathons and does long training runs. The only reason he is in Chicago is to please his wife. I do admire and respect him for that but I also hope that after what she has experienced, that maybe they can come to some sort of compromise. My DIL took a month LOA and is still up in Michigan with her mother. My secret hope is that her mother will convince her to move up there. Matt told me he loves the area where her mother lives.
Perhaps loving this city has a little something to do with being born and raised here. I have been here all my life. There are pros and cons, of course, but where I live, there is convenience, community, and amenities, as well as great health care, multicultural food, music, customs. I do know quite a few transplants who have been here for decades and love it. I suppose it's a matter of temperament and taste and what one's tolerances are. Yeah, there are certain things about the subway system that suck, but it's also the fastest way to get around town. I sold my last car in 1988. When we need one we rent, by the hour, day, or week. Financially and headache-wise (parking, insurance, maintenance), it's a winner.
I hope your DIL can work through the trauma—perhaps a professional with whom she can discuss her experience and feelings? I also hope they end up somewhere they feel happy.
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Post by Marty on Jul 24, 2023 8:32:44 GMT -5
We have plenty of squirrels roaming freely here and no Hoosiers to poach 'em. Come by and bring your Wrist Rocket!
🪃 I prefer the Australian method of hunting. Chase them into the open and let the kangaroos trample them?
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Post by millring on Aug 2, 2023 12:31:12 GMT -5
The Second Coming
BY WILLIAM BUTLER YEATS
Turning and turning in the widening gyre The falcon cannot hear the falconer; Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold; Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world, The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere The ceremony of innocence is drowned; The best lack all conviction, while the worst Are full of passionate intensity. Surely some revelation is at hand; Surely the Second Coming is at hand. The Second Coming! Hardly are those words out When a vast image out of Spiritus Mundi Troubles my sight: somewhere in sands of the desert A shape with lion body and the head of a man, A gaze blank and pitiless as the sun, Is moving its slow thighs, while all about it Reel shadows of the indignant desert birds. The darkness drops again; but now I know That twenty centuries of stony sleep Were vexed to nightmare by a rocking cradle, And what rough beast, its hour come round at last, Slouches towards Bethlehem to be born?
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Post by RickW on Aug 2, 2023 14:18:14 GMT -5
Willy Yeats was a happy sort of fellow, wasn’t he?
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Post by millring on Aug 11, 2023 9:19:29 GMT -5
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